I went to a Ladies Fellowship Dinner Monday night with ladies from our church. It was wonderful. I met people I had never spoken to before and made some great connections with ladies I may never have met on a hectic Sunday morning. One of the mixer games was to divide into groups by birth order. Four groups- oldest, middle, baby, and only. (Let me just say I have always been fascinated by the birth order theories. I have read birth order books and strongly believe in most of the theories.)
I am slowly fixing my decaf coffee watching people gather into their groups, wondering if I will be the only "only" here. Thankfully, I was wrong. In the corner were 4 other "grown-up" only children. 5 of us total, ranging in ages. We were supposed to go around and tell what we thought was the best thing about our specific birth order. Well, that was kind of obvious to the 5 of us- we never had to share anything. So, instead, we went around and told WHY we were only children. Out of the 5 of us, 2 reasons were health problems and 3 were divorce. Let me just say that is the biggest misconception about only children. Ask one, because there is always a reason. Fertility issues, divorce, health problems, etc.. Don't just assume.
Now, to the second biggest misconception. Being spoiled rotten. That is the first thing out of most mouths in regards to only children. I get defensive here. No, we did not have to share the backseat, toys, or attention. But, did this automatically make us "spoiled?" Umm, no. Now, obviously I chose to have more than one child. Nothing can compare to the bond between siblings. I cherish watching my boys interact with each other. And, thankfully, my sister-in-law is like the sister I never had. I share my life with her just like I would a blood-related sister.
I have been blessed. I have parents who raised me not be "spoiled," but to appreciate life and the blessings God has given me. I was taken everywhere with my parents. It was assumed I would travel with them and know how to converse with adults. No, I didn't have to share a backseat, but that is a good thing since I routinely get severely carsick. I never had an atari or a nintendo, but I was taken to museums and nice restaurants. I had a wonderful childhood and for that I am thankful.
For all you "onlies" out there, this is for you! Now, I will end my rant for the night before my mother dies of embarrassment.